Emotionally Focused

A robust and reflective transformation process that looks at who you’ve become and what blocks you. It invites you to look under the surface of your unique story and discover more of your true life in God within His story. There are three core experiences in Emotionally Focused that build upon each other:

1: Foundations

A two-day process all about growing in awareness — understanding more clearly why we see the world in a particular way and how we decide to behave to stay safe in relationships. By uncovering specific wounds we experienced and the meanings and vows we made, we can become aware of patterns of behavior that hold us back from becoming more like Jesus. Participants will be able to process learning through individual time for reflection and journaling and facilitated small groups.

2: Formations

A six-month process that expands the tools and deepens the experience of showing up differently in relationships. Through 12 one-hour online meet-ups and weekly coaching in small groups, participants work through practices and written reflections to help move toward their preferred future. Receiving coaching is a vital and life-giving way to see what we can’t see on our own, and many participants say that the coaching process was the key to moving out of stuck patterns into a life of flourishing.

3: Family

An eight-week course that looks not only at how and when our buttons get pushed but explores family of origin as the place the buttons were originally installed. Using family systems theory as a framework, participants identify the various expressions of anxiety in their families and the impact this had (and may still have). As they become curious about how anxiety originates and spreads throughout an emotional system, they can choose to be the person they want to be in spite of it.

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Upcoming Events

STEP 1: Foundation Intensives

Join us for a Two Day Experience In Person or Online!

This is step 1 of your EF Journey! Our Foundation Intensive is a two day experience that presents five modules (Mission, Authenticity, Integrity, Obedience and Vows) in a structured process. Through large group content presentation, personal reflection time and small group sharing, you will begin to uncover how your childhood experiences are connected to the meanings you make about the world and the ways you show up in relationships. A workbook provides content summaries and reflection prompts. 

UPCOMING : Save the date OR Click the links in blue for more Info & to Register!
May 2 & 3 – SYRACUSE, NY 
May 16 & 17 ONLINE (weekend)
August 1 & 2 – FRESNO, CA
August 6 & 7 –ONLINE (weekday)
September 12 & 13 – MINNEAPOLIS, MN

STEP 2: Formation

A six month coaching experience!

If you have completed a Foundation Intensive, then this is your next step! The 6 month journey gives you the space to try on new ways of showing up in your most important relationships. You will join in 12, one hour Large Group Zoom calls that cover various topics to grow your emotional health! You will be guided through reflection & practice of new skills through a workbook and weekly small group coaching calls.

Winter 2025 Cohort (In Progress)

UPCOMING:
Fall 2025 Cohorts will launch the week of SEPT 29, 2025 and conclude the week of March 23, 2026.

PASTORS Emotional Health Cohort (STEP 2: Formation)

A six month journey through the Formation content with an In-Person Retreat designed for our Vineyard Pastors!

This 6-month journey gives you the space to try on new ways of showing up in your most important relationships and as you lead in your church! You will join in 12, one hour Large Group Zoom calls that cover various topics to grow your emotional health! You will be guided through reflection & practice of new skills through a workbook and weekly small group coaching calls with seasoned coaches. You’ll also have access to bonus materials from expert voices at the intersection of spiritual formation and emotionally healthy leadership!

APRIL 2 – OCTOBER 15, 2025 (IN PROGRESS!)
In Person Retreat : August 11-15 in Colorado!

FALL 2025 COHORT dates coming soon!
*Completion of the Emotionally Focused Foundation Intensive is a prerequisite for joining this cohort! Check out the list of options above if you need to engage this step.

STEP 3: Family

Join us for 10 sessions ONLINE

This experience builds on concepts & practices from Emotionally Focused Foundation & Formation, and applies them to your family of origin. Join a learning community for 10 total sessions on noticing how anxiety spreads through systems, and practice tools for diffusing it in yourself and others!

Starts MAY 15th, 2025!
This cohort meets on Thursdays from 11:30a-12:30pm ET. In addition to 8 content sessions, we will be doing some small group oaching work in triads. For the full schedule, click the link in blue to learn more and REGISTER!